The Comparison Trap

I deleted my Facebook almost over 2 years ago as it was not adding any benefit to my life. After a break-up and wanting to rid myself of anything negative, deleting my account was good for my soul. I never had a desire to get back on over the past 2 years until I started blogging. Almost every article I read mentioned utilizing Facebook as much as possible. For the first year of the blog I survived without it until this year when two of the groups I am a part of, started communicating via Facebook. A few weeks in, I realized I was missing important information because I wasn’t part of the group. Therefore, I finally started a new Facebook account (under my married name of course). I liked the idea of getting to start my new account under my new name. But… a few weeks in and I got that first request that immediately made me question having a Facebook. I got the all too dreaded 10 year high school reunion group request.

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I know you’re probably thinking “oh gosh, she’s going to share her horrible high school experiences.” No, I’ll spare you. In fact, it really wasn’t that horrible, but definitely not a time in my life as a chubby insecure teen that I like to reminisce on. Getting that initial request (and not knowing how privacy settings or the ability to quit a group worked) I panicked for a second. First, because I was doing the math in my head asking myself has it already been 10 years. After realizing sadly yes I am that old (and reminding myself to have that minor I’m-almost-30-years-old-freak-out another day), I started to remember why Facebook has always been bad for me. Facebook has always sucked me into a negative thought process that would result in me questioning everything I had been doing since high school, how I looked in pictures, where my relationship stood and on and on.

Stop the Comparison Trap

Now don’t get me wrong.. I love social media. I’m a consistent Instagram scroller at night and love me a good Twitter chat but neither have made me go into such negative thinking like Facebook does. Even then, Facebook is great to connect with family and friends in other states or countries but for me it always lead to the comparison trap which never ends well. After rejecting the reunion group request on Facebook, I started thinking about the comparison trap that I experience on Facebook that I see so many people fall into at the gym. In the classes I teach, I see many new students get upset because they cannot lift as much weight, bike as fast or long or complete as many reps as another student. I find myself telling new and old students often that you cannot compare your fitness journey to someone else’s. Every single person is at a different point in their fitness. When you are working out in a group fitness setting just like a solo workout session, your focus should be on YOUR workout. You will never find anyone who is in the exact same point in their fitness to compare to, therefore comparison does nothing for you. The only comparison that should take place is against yourself. Reminding students to keep track of their accomplishments. Tracking their workouts can show an increase in reps, time or weight and is a great way to compare yourself to the only person who you should. This is one of my favorite quotes and a constant reminder to stop comparing yourself to anyone or anything because YOU are the best you!

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Tell me: What is your favorite and least favorite form of social media?

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